1.But Why has your mother refuse you total freedom over your life's decisions and personality.
Why is she limiting you and giving you fish to eat rather than teach you how to fish for yourself?
This isn't to say your mother is a witch or that she does this directly or doesn't indirectly.
You need to break free by praying your way out of this(either) spiritual or physical,direct or indirect limitation/barrier.
But if you have notice this naturally you must pray also and strategies on how you can stop her.
Psalm 119, 121:2.
2. Truly, what goes around comes around-The evil that men does lives after them.
Indeed, there is a generational curse that has become a norm in this family. You must break away from it and also, ask the lord to show you the secret/mystery of this generational curse/norm.
I see a deep,hiding secret in this family, something I wouldn't be permit to say for now-but be still,the lord will speak.
Joel 2:28, psalm 19.
Bless you.